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Episode 237: Protect Your Space


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Hey guys, welcome to another episode of the blessed in Boston podcast. Today's episode. I really just want to talk to you guys and share with you something that I believe God wants me to communicate today. And it's interesting because I had like, all of these different drafts, I guess, is the best word of a show outline to come and talk about. So I have like this list in my phone of different show topics, things that come up as I'm writing, as I'm praying that I want to bring to the podcast.


And so then I just couldn't get settled with completing any of them. And so I'm like, okay, God, like what's up. I've been doing this for long enough. So the fact that I'm not settled enough on any of these to record for this episode, surely there's something else I need to talk about. So I went and cut on some prophetic worship, instrumental music, and I just spoke in tongues and just waited for God to let me know what we're talking about. In a few minutes of me doing that, all I heard was protect your space.


And I want to talk to you guys about the importance of protecting your space. And I believe God wants to be, to affirm a lot of you guys in a sense of you have something very special, very unique, very precious that God has given you. And what happens is when we don't have the external validation of that specialness.


And so in today's world, it looks like followers or money or the success of what our business is that I guess is the proof or the receipts of what God has given us. But some of you guys, because you have, you're not able to check certain things off of your goals list is causing you to doubt the uniqueness and the magnitude of who God has called you to be in the things that he's called you to create.


And I wanted to just speak person to person, woman, to woman speak really to that powerhouse on the inside of you. Because I really have found myself in this situation a lot, like not even just before the podcast took off or the business became successful, like even now to where I have to constantly remind myself of the magnitude of who God has created me to be. And I do that because I have to protect my space. And so when you have these insecurities or you're not confident and settled in who God has created you to be, you then become vulnerable and susceptible to the counterfeits, the leeches and the spirits that the enemy will send to throw you off course.


And to demolish that special thing, that gift that preciousness that's on the inside of you. And I've experienced this a few times and I'm so grateful for God, because even in the midst of me all of the time, not really being settled and confident in who he called me to be, he has always given me the gift of discerning the spirits. And so that's one thing that I want you to pray about in this season of your life. When it comes to protecting your space, I want you to pray for the gift of discerning of spirits.


God reminded me the other day of how he has saved me from so many situations where my lack of confidence would have opened me up to the wrong people. And the instance that I'll share happened at a church. And I was in a space where I was looking for a church home. I was going to different places before the pandemic. I was going to different churches, different places, and just figuring out, you know, where it is that God wants me to be planted at, because I like to be a part of a community.


I like to go to church. It just got to be the right place. Cause I ain't got time, but, but I went to this place. The people were very nice. I went a couple of times, actually people were very, very nice. I enjoyed the services and things of that nature. So it came around for the time to tie. And at that time I gave my 10%, the 10% was over like a thousand something dollars. And I didn't make a fuss out of it. I think I paid online and this was on like an off day.


I wasn't even at the church that day. And so the pastor of the church actually had messaged me and thanked me for my donation. So didn't think anything of that, I was like, cool. Then maybe a couple of weeks or a month or so later, the leadership of the church has sent me like a video and it was pretty much like a video of them. And it wasn't like I was on an email list and this video came up, was sent to everybody. This was sent to me personally. And I noticed that the leadership before that, I noticed that the leadership like started following me on social media and everything.


And I was like, okay. I mean, not necessarily a red flag, but all right, y'all watching my stuff and following me and all of that. Okay. Not again, not necessarily a red flag, but a eyebrow raise. So then after I typed, I got this message of this video that basically was a video asking for buddy is the best way that I could put it. It wasn't as explicit as can you send, give us some more money.


It was more so of like we're raising funds or some type of generalized video, but the gist of it was asking for money. I ignored it. And then at that point I decided I wasn't going to go back because these things coupled together felt like a red flag to me, to where I was like, okay, I can't put my finger on it. And that's what happens with the gift of discerning the spirits. Sometimes you can readily identify the spirit that's operating on the inside of, of somebody. But at that time I didn't necessarily have the language or the knowledge to call a specific spirit out.


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They asked the friend that went there about me a long time ago. It was around that same time where I had donated the money. They just never said anything to me. So I was like, okay, now I know, usually I run things past my husband's like, okay, am I over analyzing? Like, what's up? He was like, nah, that's, that is fishy. And it was interesting because they didn't ask about him. He and I went together. We go everywhere together. Like they didn't ask how's Tatum and BJ data and reach out to us collectively.


It was house Tatum. What's up with Tatum and being all involved in what I'm doing online. And so I was like, you know what, God, I thank you because I was so vulnerable in a sense of looking for a community to plant and that if it wasn't for the gift of discerning of spirits, then I wouldn't have recognized this. And I would've been used going to a place where I'm looking to get poured into. And it's not to say that I won't use my gifts and talents in the house of God, but it has to be the place that God has planted me in. And so I didn't feel that I was planted in that place.


And then those red flags really sealed the deal for me. But God really brought that back to my memory. And not even just that, but other things like there've been people that I've met over the last, I've been an entrepreneur since 2015. There've been people that I've met over the last six years who have tried to attach themselves to me because they see they can see and be confident, recognize the gifted me that I can't see realize and be confident in myself. And so it's such a warfare strategy and it's so imperative that as these powerful people, these purposeful women powerhouse women, that God has called us to be, we have to protect our space and we have to be settled in our gifting.


And so I wanted to just give this episode, we not even going to be long, but I want to encourage you to protect your space, get confident and get settled and your gift and understand that even if you don't have those or see those external factors that may validate that gift for you, be confident. Anyway, the thing about humility, I believe that a lot of times we humble ourselves into insecurity or try to downplay everything that we do. And I'm very much so guilty of this myself.


But as I was researching and studying humility, humility is us just knowing that without God, we're nothing but confidence, as long as your confidence is in him and not self-righteousness, then be that brag on him. Understand that you're that girl, because you're that girl that God created understand that even in the quirks and the things that are different about you, that make you stand out, you still are royalty. You're still a Royal priesthood, a chosen generation. You were called to be set apart.


And while the money and the followers or the influence, or the affluence may not be reflective of the things that God has placed on the inside of you. We don't wait to get those things for us to be confident because that's not faith. Faith. Faith is confidence in things hope for and assurance about things unseen and faith is proven by your ability to believe and act on what God has placed inside of you before you see it manifest in the natural. And so for some of you guys, I believe that God wanted me to give you this message to protect your space because in protecting your space, you're going to protect your faith.


You're going to protect your legacy. You're going to protect your dream. You're going to protect the vision. You're going to protect that precious thing that God has placed on the inside of you protected. Don't try to judge a God thing by the world's standard of success. He will make your name great. He will go before you and make crooked path straight. He will make a seat for you at a table in front of your enemies. He will establish your plans. He will never be made out to be a liar. So whatever it is that you're trusting and believing in God for have confidence in that and protect it, protect yourself and protect again, what God has placed on the inside of you.


That's why I said last week, don't let the world or anybody make you feel like doing what God is calling you to do in this season. Isn't enough. We have to protect ourselves. And I know that it's easier said than done, but it's not impossible. And we have to commit to it because what other option do we have F be regular, be average. I would hate to live a life where I do all of these things and I never do the thing that I was born to do.


It's my biggest fear in life to get to the gates. And God says, well, this is what you've done, but this is, is what I have for you. There's no, do-overs at that point. There's no. Oh God, can I go back? Like, can you give me another mama's womb to get put in and then drop this again? Like there's no going back at that point. And so, yeah, it's easier said than done, but it's not impossible.


And what other choice do we have the alternative, right? To me, it's not worth it. Alternative of building this business and doing life the world's way and rubbing shoulders with whoever because of whatever. Like it's not worth it. Being outside of the will of God is not worth the, it leads to destruction. It builds up empires. Don't stand. It's not worth it. Have to protect yourself, says, cause we're going to see this thing through. Okay, we're going to see this thing through.


Here are a couple of things that you can do to protect yourself and your faith. So the first thing I want you to do is surround yourself with good news. The Bible says in Romans 10, 17, that faith comes by hearing and hearing by the word of Christ or at some translations say faith comes by hearing. That is hearing the good news about Christ is really hard to not have faith. When you hear so many stories about people who have faith in the outcomes of it, when you hear so many testimonies, when you hear people who are in the same season as you, where you may be in a vulnerable space and need to protect yourself here at other testimonies of people like you, it's hard to not be faithful in that time.


Right? And so a good strategy for you to make sure you're protecting that faith. And that thing that God has given you is to surround yourself by these stories. And so it can be things like, of course, listening to this podcast, or I would even go into the word of God period. If you go to Hebrews 11, 11, and one gives you the definition of faith. But later on in the chapter, it just gives story. After story, after story of people who moved by faith and who were rewarded for their faith, the Bible says that it is impossible to please God, without faith.


So you protecting yourself, you protecting your faith, is setting yourself up to be and remain in a place that pleases God. And that's where we all need to be. Your homework is to go to Hebrews 11. And I want you to write on sticky notes, pieces of paper, whatever, set it up as notifications to go off on your phone throughout the day. I want you to take out all of these examples.


That's right here in Hebrews 11, starting at four, put them somewhere where you can see it and be reminded of daily, make it a part of your morning routine while you are having your morning coffee or whatever you do in the morning to gather your thoughts, just turn here and or go to your notebook journal wherever you have this listing. And just read off these stories of faith to just encourage yourself and to remind your flesh that despite what's happening in life, despite what's going on in the natural, that God has placed something on the inside of you.


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And you're scared because you're thinking of your capabilities or your qualifications to be able to handle or build something that big. And I just want you to increase your faith because I need you to understand that for as long as you stay in position to please God, to obey God that you don't need to understand how you're going to get to that thing. He is going to direct you. He is going to give you the brick to lay. He is going to give you the instructions and little by little, you're going to build this thing out.


I have this huge vision and it wasn't until recently that I actually accepted it enough to stay it out. My mouth. I have this huge vision to be a billionaire with a B. I talk about like multimillions of being a millionaire and all of that, because that's something that was achievable to me. It was fathomable in my head. Now getting to the point of being a billionaire. I was like, Hey, I don't really need all of that, but I'm able to now say it out my mouth and look at what God is calling me to build with my company to build a media conglomerate like the media.


I told you guys all the time, the media is responsible for the soundtrack of the world. There are only a handful of media conglomerates that control 90% of what we hear and see only a handful. And so here I am with the odd day Essity to want to build out or to be called, to build out this media conglomerate, to be added to that handful and to do it for the kingdom of God. That's, that's a lot, almost sounds silly for me to even say it right now, because who does that.


But I'm confident that if I just stay in position that if I protect myself, that if I protect my heart, my mind, my spirit, my dreams, my passions, my gifts, if I just protect it and stay in position, I'm confident that God will tell me exactly what I need to do to build this thing out. And the same thing for you, the first step is to believe God, believe that yes, he called you that girl from the hood, that girl from a single parent household, that guy who didn't have a father around that, that person who doesn't even have a college degree.


Yeah. He called you. Yeah, it's big. No, it doesn't make sense, but it's not supposed to. We can't rush. Try to rationalize a supernatural. God is not going to work. It's just going to leave us frustrated, confused, and distract us from what it is he's calling us to do right now. So again, I want to encourage you to protect your space. I want to let you know that I see you. We see each other, okay. I want to give you a virtual hug and to just, again, encourage you to stay connected to God, protect yourself, protect yourself, protect that thing, that vision, that business, that gift, that whatever that God has given you protected because it's in that protection that you maintain your faith, that you can stay in a position to please him.


So that stayed. I just wanted to share my heart and what I believe God needed me to share with you guys on this episode. Make sure that you write the show, leave us a review. Follow me on Instagram at Tatum to Mia, follow the podcast at blessed and bossed up. And I love you guys. I'll see you next week.


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