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Episode 166: How to Be Content

Hey guys, welcome to another episode of the Blessed and Bossed Up Podcast. Thank you so much to everybody who sent your congratulations to us. We are just extremely excited so BJ and I just thank you for your prayers, for your well wishes on us growing our family. So, let's get into today's episode y'all; if y'all can't tell in my voice right now, I am on such a high today and it's so funny because I was really dragging this morning, I’ve just been tired. I think the third trimester brings exhaustion and I’ve been really feeling it.

This morning I woke up really tired but I went into my prayer time and so the way my schedule is now, I get up, get my husband out the house, make breakfast, make sure his lunch is packed, all that stuff and then I go and have my prayer time. I told you guys I’m reading a book a month this year so I bought two books for March. I finished my February book but the two books that I bought for March actually go together so I was like “oh let me get this.” They're written by the same person and so I knew that these would be good to read at the same time because it's just an expansion on the information.

So, I went to my prayer time, I made my little tea, I got my prayer journal, I grabbed these books and I went into the war room. And let me tell y'all something, I went there at 9:00 a.m and I came out at almost 11:45 and I came out on such a high. I had to text a few people because some things came up as it relates to those who are in my life and some things that God shared with me to share with them. So, I’m sending out all these text messages but I came out of that thing like, I don't know if y'all have seen this meme where it's like before I go into prayer and it's a small lion and it's like after prayers come out this huge full-grown lion.

That's how I felt and that's how I feel right now and it's not that I went in there to go to war, I spent most of the time quiet; the majority of that almost three hours wasn't me praying. I prayed for maybe the first 10 minutes and then I opened up the books and the books that I read are always in alignment with things that God has revealed to me not books that I necessarily pick. But if God is showing me that he's doing something in my life so for example, we had the conversation on the show about going from entrepreneur to executive.

And so God was really teaching me how to master the mundane so that book the Slight Edge that's what it was really about and so that book helped me a lot with that aspect.

Now, there are other things that God is revealing to me as it relates to the mandate for Anchor Media and for what I’m going to do and so I got books that were specific to that message. Honestly, with the things that he's calling me to do I’ve had a few interviews over the last couple of weeks for like publications and things. So, I was doing this interview and an interviewer asked me, “What do you do when God is calling you to do something and how to do something that hasn't really been done before?” “Like, where do you go, how do you figure out how you're supposed to reach this goal or reach this huge promise when no one's ever done it before?

And I loved that question because it took me back to something that God was sharing with me while I was out of town last week and the week before where God was sharing with me about… I’m not sure if I said this on last week's but if I did forgive me for repeating but God was speaking to me heavily about pioneering. And he was saying that the difference between a worldly pioneer and a kingdom pioneer is who they're being led by. And with that, he was just showing me that it's important for me as a kingdom pioneer to always be connected with him because he's going to reveal to me the direction that I need to take.

He's going to show me where I need to go, it's not something I’m going to find at this level, it's not something that I’m going to find in another person, in a coach or in any type of success story or celebrity or social influence or whatever. Or wherever people go to find inspiration or insight these days, I’m not going to be able to find those things yet. I may have been able to look to those resources in earlier stages for example; when I was ready to leave my job I hired a business coach.

I was able to find natural resources in that area or in that season of my life, but for this season, for the level of glory that I’m going to, I’ve maxed out the capacity. Or, I’ve maxed out the resources of what's available for me that's going to allow me to successfully navigate the level I am currently and where God is taking me. The only way that I’m going to be able to truly successfully navigate what he has for me and pioneer effectively to the point where generations are going to be impacted by the Kingdom of God, the word of God and the love of God.

Not all of the bigotry and misogyny and racism and things that generations have been impacted by as far as the US is concerned. In order for me to have the same level of generational impact before the Kingdom; I need to be connected to God and what he's telling me to do. So that's pretty much where I’ve been at but that sounds good and I’m telling y'all this for a reason, we're going to get to today's episode but all of that sounds good.

However, I wasn't necessarily sure how that was going to play out and so I’m like “well God, you mean to tell me you’re going to tell me everything?”

I just couldn't wrap my mind around it, around how this was going to really unfold and how he was going to show me all the details. Lo and behold, okay; he used someone to share with me these two books and this is why it's important to have people of faith around you and God sends me a lot of prophets. There are a lot of prophets in my life and it's so funny because I didn't ask God to send me prophets, but he sends prophetic people into my life. He sends intercessors into my life, he always just knows what I need and he'll send them to me before I even realize I need them.

But nevertheless, God has a lot of prophetic people in my life, so one of my sisters sent me these two books and she was like “hey” and I know she's spirit-led so I know whenever she suggests something to me it's not just her thoughts, it's the holy spirit. So, she sent me these two books and immediately, God was like “get them,” I ordered those books right then and there. And shout out to Amazon prime because I had those things two days later; so today I decided to open them as I was in my quiet time. As I’m praying, as I’m reading these books that God told me to read.

I’m sitting there with my notebook open because I had a couple things, I wanted to talk to God about and I knocked those out within like the first 20 minutes of being in there and got my answers. But then I’m just sitting there with my notebook open, questions that I’ve had but haven't even written down to be like “oh, let me pray about this specifically yet.” He was giving me so much clarity about what my business Anchor Media is doing in the sphere, the platform, the mountain of influence of media and sharing with me how to go about even hiring decisions and building my team.

And the training process that my team is going to have to go through in order to be able to understand this company because one thing that I have been struggling with is that I’m like “okay God...” Or, with people who are working with us is getting them to understand that you can be a business that is rooted in God without being overtly churchy. You just don't have to do that; Chick-fil-a and I’m going to do a podcast on the book I read called the Chick-fil-a Principle that was written by their chief marketing officer.

But Chick-fil-a is a Christ-based company, they don't have scriptures on their chicken boxes and chicken sandwich bags and all of that. You know they're a Christ-based company but they're not preaching to you. They do small things like if you go into a Chick-fil-a, I actually just realized this the other day because I don't usually sit in there; I usually go through the drive-through.

When my husband and I got back from out of town we stopped at Chick-fil-a because you know you got to go to the Lord's house when we come back in town. So, we stopped by Chick-fil-a, we were in there and was bopping my head, I was like “is this gospel?” It was instrumental music playing and I was like “this is gospel.” I started singing the song because I recognized it and he was like “yeah, you don’t know Chick-fil-a played gospel music?” I said I had no idea, I never realized that but aside from stuff like that but they're not overtly churchy. Even as I was reading the book, the CMO was saying that one of their biggest ways that they stay or communicate the love of God is their customer service. He said that people love their customer service; it’s always ‘May I serve you.’ Of course, there may be some bad apples in a bunch but for the most part, everybody knows that Chick-fil-a has grade A customer service. And the reason why they were so intentional about that is because they wanted to show people the love of God when they came to it. Now that doesn't mean they're saying God bless you before you leave, they don't write scriptures on your polynesian sauce, they just treat you with the love of God. So when it came to my company, what I have been struggling with is getting whoever works with us to understand like “listen, we don't have to be that churchy.”

What we do is going to impact the Kingdom because of how we do it, because of the foundation of prayer, of fasting, of allowing the Holy Spirit to lead what we do, that's our foundation. That's who we are as a company so that's going to come through as it relates to everything that we do but our verbiage and our copy and our stuff like that, it doesn't have to be overtly churchy. So, I was a little bit frustrated with that because I’m like “why do I have to keep explaining this, why aren't people understanding it?”And so, God was using even my prayer time today to show me how to cultivate a team that understands that, that is moved by God but at the same time as being effective, it's doing great business. And not just using scripture as an excuse to be a bad business person; he was revealing so much to me you guys, just so many questions that I had. Questions that I hadn't even really gotten around to answering and just giving me so much direction on how to build this business and how to take this business to what he has for me.

I was just on my high after this and I’m texting some friends or whatever, people that I was supposed to share things with. Then I have people that I’m just sharing like “yo, God was really showing out in my prayer time;” like, this is what happened, this is what he was sharing with me and I’m just sharing my excitement. What it made me think about was a few years ago, I wouldn't have even been ready to receive what it is that God has been speaking to me about. And the things that he's been leading me to do over the last few weeks or the last couple of months pretty much since 2020 started.

I would have even been in a position to receive that and I told y'all that I’ve been doing a lot of interviews over the last couple of weeks and people always ask me about my faith at different levels. Different levels as far as where was my faith at this point of business, where's my faith at that point of my entrepreneurial journey?Even with the questions and things that you guys send in, a lot of you guys are saying how much you love my passion for God and my excitement for God and the way that God uses me. I appreciate that, but I want you guys to really understand that I wouldn't have gotten here without starting from getting saved, saved a few years back. And a lot of you guys based off of the questions and I’m actually going to ask answer a question in today's episode.

A lot of you guys based on the question want to have that relationship with God, like you want to maybe exude the level of passion that I do when talking about God and being on this high and having these experiences, these supernatural revelations that I talk about. I share things that happen in my prayer time on purpose because I want you guys to see what happens when you truly seek God and he how all things are added unto you, remember we talked about Matthew 6:33. I share this with you guys just to be an example of what God wants to do in your relationship.

But what I’m realizing is a lot of people are maybe admiring where I am right now and wanting to get where I am right now so much so to where you're losing your contentment with your current season or you're minimizing the importance of where you are right now.

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For today's episode, we're going to talk about how to be content when you aren't where you want to be and I’m going to talk about this from a faith-based perspective not necessarily talking about business but all of these things really go together. But I want to talk to you guys about how to be content when you aren't where you want to be because a lot of you guys aren't where you want to be. You may listen to me and the enemy will use my passion to fill insecurity in you and that ain't nothing but him trying to distort what God is trying to do through this platform.

That's nothing but him trying to bring confusion to you and uncertainty to you and I can tell that's what's happening because I always pray for this community and the tribe that God has attached to me. And so, God shows me a lot of the schemes of the enemy and that's one of the things that he's trying to do with this platform. He has you guys listening to this and comparing your relationship with God with mine or comparing where you are in your business to where I may talk about, I am in my business. The platform that God has created to pour into you to plant seeds, to water seeds, the enemy is now using it as another means to bring confusion and insecurity to you.

I’m getting mad as I’m talking about it so before we even get to the point, I bind that right now in the name of Jesus, I declare and decree right now that every word that is spoken by God through this platform is landing on good soil. That any person that is under the sound of my voice will have ears to hear what God is saying, I rebuke the distortion of the enemy. I cancel any plans of the enemy distort to the messages that God uses through this platform to cause insecurity confusion or contention amongst his people.

We cancel that, we bind it up and we send it back to the hell that it came from right now in the name of Jesus and I declare and decree that you shall hear the purity of the message that God speaks. That you shall hear God's voice and use it to water the seeds that he's already planted in you or use it to plant new seeds that he will use others to water. But I declare and agree right now that people shall see much fruit from everything that God speaks to them through this platform and again, we cancel the plans of the enemy in the name of Jesus.

Alright, sorry y'all; we had to take care of that real quick because I’m like “hold on, this dude really think he’s about to play with this platform man, like yeah, no, we're not having that.” The devil going to have to fight me for real, he's going to have to square up because I’m about sick and tired of him and his foolishness. But nevertheless, we have the victory and that's why I thank God for the way that he just continues to use this platform.And I thank God for the way that he continues to show me things because I really don't play when it comes to this platform and the souls that's attached to it like, it's too much work to be done, y'all got too much in you that need to come out, that I’m not, no…

Alright, let's get back before I go on a whole little tangent but nevertheless, again, the title today's episode is How to be Content When you aren’t Where you Want to Be. And I’m talking about this spiritually because like I said, a lot of you guys may feel or admire what you may hear through the show and it's causing insecurity in you or it's causing you to minimize what God is doing in this season of your life. And to be clear, when I say content, if you look up the definition of content it means satisfied, a state of satisfaction or another definition says in a state of peaceful happiness.

So do not confuse content with stagnation, I’m not talking about how to be stagnant because that's not what we're doing. I’m talking about how to be content, how to be satisfied with where you are and so the first step that I want to share with you guys in doing that is you have to eliminate the contingencies that you put on God. A lot of us put contingencies on God and we don't always realize it and so that's why I want to change your perspective on some things. Now, the definition of contingent means occurring or existing only if certain circumstances are the case.

So, when something is dependent on something, that's where the word contingent comes in. So a lot of us, we put contingencies on our relationship with God to where it's like “okay God, I want to see my business be successful so I’m going to pray every day then.” And I don't think a lot of people do this intentionally, but I could tell just in conversations in the way a lot of people ask certain questions is that there is some contingencies here when it comes to our relationship with God.

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But in order for you to really be satisfied with what he's doing in your life right now because everything has a season, the Bible tells us that everything has a season. And one of the things that I’m cognizant of is as I grow and God elevates me and I reach different levels of achievement or whatever.

That I don't romanticize it to where y'all feel like it was a walk in a park to get here because it wasn't, that's why I love this podcast because you could literally go back. I’ll tell you where I was at a certain point in my life and what episode to listen to how I was struggling, I could tell you to listen to… If you go back in early 2019 or all of 2018, that was a season where I had to work extremely hard to be content with where I was and you could listen to every podcast episode of that year and a half time frame and that's where I was at.

But a lot of you guys or people will listen to you now and think that I have never been through nothing and that's not the case, I know what I’ve been through. And that's what makes me that more grateful for God because I know the tears I’ve cried, the way I’ve had to be crushed to produce it all at this level. And it wasn't easy but it's all a part of the process of getting you to where you want to be that's why you have to be satisfied right now and not try to play these games with God.

A lot of us try to negotiate with him like “well God, I know that you're telling me to spend more time with you so if you could just eliminate this nine to five and let me be a full-time entrepreneur then I’ll spend more time with you,” that's a contingency. God doesn't have to do anything else for us, he literally sent his only son to die on the cross for our sins. And we got the nerve to be put in contingencies on if we're going to obey him or not or if we're going to spend time with him or not, like how dare we? Who are we to think that God has to do anything else for us in order for us to do the things that he's asking us for do?

That's just a place that we have to first get ourselves out of and humble ourselves, seriously. So, in order for you to be satisfied with where you are, all of those contingencies that you have have to go. You have to be satisfied with just doing what God says, you have to be satisfied with meditating on the word day and night, you have to be satisfied with praying and fasting. You have to be satisfied with all of these Biblical principles that you're applying to your life like “it's okay.” I think we all need to take a deep breath or something and understand that it's okay to not be where you want to be.

I was talking to my friend Tish the other day and she said something that was a whole word, she’s always dropping gems and don't realize it but she said something like “yeah, who really wants to peak at 30?” I forgot what we were talking about, I’m not going to try to remember but had said “I’m really not trying to peak at 30” and I was like “man, that's a word” who really wants to peak at 30? Who really wants to have it all figured out at 35, at 25, at 20, at 28, like who really wants to peak at that age?

What you going to do for the rest of your life, you know what I’m saying? Like, what are we really about to do for prayerfully the next 90 or so years, like what are we really going to do if we peaked right now?

It's not about having it all figured out, it's about just simply um trusting that God knows what he's doing and surrendering yourself to his process and his timing and that goes back to our episode a few weeks ago so I’m not going to go too deep into that. But number one to being content and satisfied when you aren't where you want to be is to eliminate the contingencies that you put on God. Then number two is you have to see it differently.

You have to change your perspective of where you are right now and not allow the lack of whatever you're believing in God for to make you unappreciative of what he's doing right now. You have to see this season as necessary and not as an inconvenience; again, see this season as necessary and not as an inconvenience. I told y'all that my whole reason for being on a spiritual high but when I got to just as I was thinking about it…

The reason why I wanted to do this episode on this is I could not even have handled what God is revealing to me back when I got saved, saved. I couldn't have handled it in 2017, I couldn't have handled it in 2018 and I couldn't have handled it in 2019. I’m just getting on board with being able to handle it right now and the reason why he's revealing it to me right now is because I am ready but prior to I was not ready for it. And I’m so glad he didn't show it to me because I would have ran from it, it would have been too much.

The thought of it now sometimes is like “God what you got for me is a little bit too much, I don't want all of this; but nevertheless, at this point I’m deep in, I’ve told you God that I was going to live my life for you so that's just where we at. So yeah, it's a lot but that's all the more reason why I got to do it with you because I have no clue how I would be able to do this without you.” But me years ago, I would have been like “oh heck no, I’m good love, enjoy,” I wouldn't have been able to handle it and there are things that even the enemy may throw my way that I laugh at.

It was grown within the waiting season, the preparation season and not being where I wanted to be. God had a purpose for that process, the pruning process is so necessary, but so many times we often look at what we lack as opposed to what we have which is God's divine protection and his love. We have his guidance; we have so much in this space even if you don't have the things that you say that you want.

So again, you guys, you in order to truly be content where you are is you have to see it as necessary and not as an inconvenience. You're not inconveniencing yourself by surrendering to God, by giving your body to God, you're not missing out on anything and the enemy will love to bring that level of confusion. That's why we have to have the episode about he walks around like a roaring lion, he's loud but you have to be sober and be vigilant to see what it is that he's doing. And I’m glad that God is using this show as a way to expose a lot of things that he's doing but again you guys, you have to have a perspective change.

You have to have a perspective change, there is fullness of joy in God's presence, there is so much to have in this season, there's so much to learn in this season but we're missing out. Because we're so focused on the fact that “oh, I don't have this level of passion or I’m not here in my business, I’m not here in my walk with God, I’m not married yet, I don't have children yet, I wanted to do this by 30.”

No, we're imposing our timelines on God and we're getting upset when we don't see it, we're imposing our definitions of success on God and then getting upset when we don't see it when we want to see it and that's simply not how this works. And it's robbing you from what he's trying to teach you in this season right now and so this week I want you guys to practice looking on the bright side. Practice hope, practice instead of being frustrated or feeling inconvenienced by the season that you're in looking at it as something that's necessary for where you're trying to go.

If it wasn't necessary, God wouldn't have you there; everything that I’ve been through up until this point in my life was necessary to get me here. And there are other things that I’m going through right now that are necessary and adjustments that God has me making that are necessary to take me to where I’m going. And that brings me to my final point of, understand that even after you arrive, air quotes “the process still isn't over.” I don't know if I said it on the show or maybe in conversation but God has given me so much.

So many of the desires of my heart right now with the baby, with the business thriving, with having a healthy marriage, there are so many things that a few years ago when I got saved, saved I was really believing in God for self-employment, all of these things. Those were the big goals that I had and so now God has blessed me with all of those things and I don't know, for whatever reason, I didn't think past that if that makes sense.

I think the only thing past that I thought was I want to be a millionaire before 30 but other than that, I don't think that I thought much past it and so much of my life and my happiness or lack thereof was contingent upon those desires of my heart. And so now that I have those things I’m like “wow” and God is revealing to me just more and more about what he has for me.

I’m like “wow, there's so much farther to go” and I came across that scripture I say all the time now if we go from glory to glory and I’m really understanding what that means. And I think that if I would have understood that when I was first building my relationship with God and first learning what living this life was all about, it would have made it much easier. Because there's so much farther to go than what your mind is able to conceive right now or conceptualize right now. The Bible says that he will do exceedingly and abundantly above anything that we could ask for or think.

So that means whatever you're tripping over right now, whatever is keeping you stuck and anxious and upset is small change to God, it's little. He will do above that so why are we even finding ourselves allowing that to make us anxious or dissatisfied with where we are? No, there's so much farther to go and the process is always going to be a process, it may look different. Like my process now looks a lot different than it did over the last few years from when I got saved, saved till today.

My process looked a lot like God pruning me of the things that weren't like him; dealing with a lot of generational things that was on my bloodline, learning how to truly live for him so breaking a lot of my bad habits getting me and keeping me, a lot of the sin that I was in earlier on. It was a lot of that just molding Tatum to be the woman of God that he called me to be and so now that I live a righteous lifestyle, I’m not saying that I’m perfect but I live a life that's pleasing to God.

Because I live a righteous lifestyle now, there's still so much more that he needs to do and this process looks different to prepare me for the next level of who he called me to be. So now it's not really about the Christian handbook anymore, now it's about dying empty if that makes sense, right now it's about making sure that I fulfilled what he put me on this earth to fulfill and I do it with integrity. That I do it with a level of love and respect and responsibility with my calling and so that's a process as well and I didn't really realize that there was another process after I got out of the waiting season.

I wanted to articulate that to you guys because there are a lot of you who are dissatisfied with where you are but I want to change your perspective for you to understand that where you are is necessary for what God has for you. It’s not an inconvenience and that even when this season is over there's still going to be another season that's going to have another process in and of its own so just get used to it in a sense. But also, just trust God that he is going to give you everything that you need in order to successfully maneuver through every season.

So, before we answer this question let's do a quick recap on how to be content aka satisfied when you want where you want to be and number one eliminate the contingencies that you put on God. See it as necessary and not an inconvenience, that was number two and then number three, understand that even after you arrive, the process isn't over. I hope that helped, any of you guys who may be kind of struggling with where God has you right now, just keep fighting a good fight of faith and don't grow weary in doing the right thing okay.

Because God's promises will come to pass and everything that you're going through right now is simply to prepare you for what he has for you. Alright, let's answer a question; if you would like to submit a question to be answered on the show, email your girl Tatum at Put podcast question in the subject line so that we can store it in its proper place and we could be able to find it when it's time to do the show; all questions are answered anonymously.

Okay; this question says, I’m listening to your podcast for some time now and I just wanted to let you know I love the relationship that you have with God and how much he uses you. I’m on a journey to obtain a closer bond with God and your podcast directs me in a good direction. I just wanted to contact you and ask a question regarding your previous podcast which was How to Accept God's Timing Over Your Own. In this episode you talked about the human nature of wanting instant gratification especially when requesting things from him.

Although I have my wants that I speak with him about, I am pursuing him by instilling him in my day-to-day life and giving him two days out of my week to just completely dedicate to learn of his word and wishes and ideals. I want to ask that with such a pursuit and a desire to know him, how can I refrain from wanting instant gratification from that. I feel like with all of this pursuing as of right now, I’m not getting too much in return as if I’m not doing enough or hearing him clearly.

In the meantime, I’m still perfecting what's on my plate now but I’m eager to hear “good job, keep up the good work or keep pressing.” I feel as if he answers me more loudly when I’m asking him of something but right now, I’m only asking of him and I’m hearing crickets. I just want to know how should I deal with this want of instant gratification, I’m pleased to be serving him and gaining all his knowledge and new love but I just want to know if I’m pleasing him.

So, one of the questions within this question you asked, how do I refrain from wanting instant gratification and I believe that it's not necessarily a question of refraining from instant gratification but more so of changing your perspective of what is gratifying. So, if it is gratifying for you to please God, then doing the things that are pleasing to him like reading his words, spending time with him, praying, living a life that's righteous. Obeying what he says and all of these things then you should get that instant gratification because those things are pleasing to God.

Remember in that instant gratification episode I talked about how instant gratification needs to be denied when it is going against the word of God so make that distinction from what we were talking about then. We were talking about instant gratification keeping you from God not necessarily, instant gratification drawing you to him. So, if you're seeing your desire for instant gratification in this instance as a problem, then that's why I would question what do you define as gratifying? Are you defining immediate answers to your questions as gratifying as opposed to being content with spending time with him and being content with learning his word? Because then, that's a different conversation but my question back to you after reading this is where is the disconnect?

Why aren't you satisfied with the fact that you're grown in your relationship with God? I really believe that you know that the things that you're doing are pleasing to God so how is confusion seeping in that's making you feel like somehow that isn't if that makes sense. So, if I were you, I would really evaluate that and that's something that I would take to prayer like “God, why do I feel like I need to be doing more or I’m doing this wrong?” because I believe you said something similar to that.

Ask God, “God show me why I feel like I’m doing this wrong” and he'll begin to show you maybe the ways that the enemy is kind of winning a little bit. Maybe it’s some religious structures that you may be familiar with that you kind of have to back away from in order to truly build that relationship that you're looking for. But spend some time really asking him those things; I don't know because I’m not God and I only know what you put in the question. But this would prompt me if I was in your shoes to sit down and evaluate how you're responding to your desire to grow closer to God.

And that's something that I do all the time and that's something that I did the other day or last week's episode I think where I was talking about how I had to sit down with God to figure out where was the disconnect. Because the things that I thought I was supposed to be doing were causing me stress and God had to reveal to me where I was getting things wrong so I would tell you to do the same thing. Sit down like “God, I’m doing the things that I know to do, that I’m supposed to do, where is the disconnect at that's keeping me from feeling satisfied with doing these things?”

Because intellectually, like I said, I believe that you know that the things that you're doing are pleasing to God but there's a disconnect there. Maybe it's because you said that you spend two days a week dedicating your day solely to growing in him and my question for that would be are those the only two days that you spend with God? If so, that might be part of the disconnect.

The Bible tells us to meditate on the word day and night and so that's something that we need to be doing twice a day and not necessarily twice a week. But if it's like you're just saying okay two days a week is when I spend extended time then that I more so understand but you didn't clarify so I’m not sure.

But yeah, my advice to you would be to really sit down with God and ask him to reveal to you where the disconnect is and tell him like “God, I have a desire to please you, I want to know that I’m doing good.” “I want you to say well done, I want to hear keep up the good work so because I’m not hearing it am I missing it, am I doing something wrong, what is it?” I would take this exact same question to God and ask him to reveal what's going on because only he knows right.

He knows every hair on your head, he knows all the stuff, all the things there is to know about you so my advice to you would just be to do that then let me know how it goes. I do believe that when you do that, he'll begin to show you where the disconnect is and you'll be able to make those adjustments. But shout out to you for having that heart to be like “you know what God; I’m going to start doing the things to get closer to you as opposed to just talking about it.”

“I’m going to read the word, I’m going to do these things, I’m going to spend this extended time if that's what you meant on these two days to dive deeper into the word and all of that stuff.” So yeah, do that, let me know how it goes and God bless you, I’m excited to see how he molds you and things after you have this conversation and you continue to grow in him.

Alright you guys, that wraps up another episode of the Blessed and Bossed Up Podcast; I will talk to you guys next week.



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